Dave Goldberg, Mo Merriman, Tim Carlsen and millions of men have something in common...
This Father’s Day, I pay tribute to Dave Goldberg...
Dave tragically passed away recently at the young age of 47. A
brilliant man in his own right, Dave was proud of being the husband of
Sheryl Sandberg, the author of 'Lean In'. For those of you who have read
this book, you already know the eloquence with which Sheryl describes
her husband’s partnership. She credits his encouragement and active
support in creating a lifestyle which enabled her to pursue her career
with the comfort of knowing that he ‘had it covered’ at home with their
children when she was at work. He was not patronizing her but truly
believed in her talent and wanted her to take advantage of all the
opportunities that came her way so she could fulfill her potential. He
set an example for their children to see how two people that loved each
other fully could work together to bring out the best in each other. He
also recognized the fact that despite all the advancements of the cause
of equal rights for women, it still is not a fair fight out there. So he
did something that only a man who is evolved, supremely confident and
truly in love with his wife can do- he encouraged his wife to go into
the spotlight while he stood strongly in the wings taking no credit for
her success. How do you think this impacted their children? I can only
imagine the amazingly powerful ripple effect of such selfless love and
gift of empowerment. Alas, they do not have him in their lives the way
every child deserves to have their father but they have a legacy of his
goodness, leadership, innovative partnership with his wife and his
definition of what he considered a strong and well balanced family that
made a difference in this world.
This Father’s Day I pay tribute to my dad, Mo Merriman...
I hold his love in my heart. I move forward in my life with a deep
appreciation of the qualities that defined him. His intelligence, his
warmth and his kindness are embedded in my mind. His curiosity about
people and this world is something that I have proudly inherited. The
safety and security I felt when he held me are still imprinted on my
psyche. His calm voice relaxed me and although I cannot remember the
stories that he told me, I am still comforted by the memory of him
reading to me at bedtime. All of this has shaped who I am and guides me
as I make my way in this world and work towards the legacy that I want
to leave behind. I am amazed at the scope of his influence on my
development and on how I view myself .
The everlasting and profound
depth of his impact on me is truly amazing considering the fact that he
died when I was only 6 years old…
This father’s Day I pay tribute to my husband, Tim Carlsen...
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Tim, Simrin and Nina |
Tim and I are raising 2 daughters, Nina and Simrin. Both girls are
smart, strong and may I truthfully add, a bit sassy. I have no doubt
that having a father that is there for them at all times and under all
circumstances has had a positive effect on their self-confidence and
self-image. In this day and age, it is a challenge to raise good kids
and our family is no different than most in sometimes struggling to find
a way to reach our children with the message that we want them to hear.
Today I celebrate Tim as a dad who influences his daughters by living a
life of integrity, hard work and devotion to his family. Sometimes the
only language that is effective is that of silent but active support.
Tim speaks that language well. He does it by encouraging our girls to
push through when they are failing, he does it by cheering them on when
they are winning, he does it by enforcing the rules even though he
really wants to make them happy by giving in, he does it by being
available to them at all times, he does it by accommodating late night
trips to craft stores so they can finish a project that they forgot to
tell him about, he does it by telling them how beautiful they are when
they complain to him about their acne, he does it when he teaches them
how to use power tools, he does it when he tells them silly, punny jokes
and then enjoys their ‘eye rolls’, he does it when he comforts them
when their hearts are broken, he does it infinite ways, day in, day out.
As I shared today, I know the importance of a father’s love,
involvement and commitment. It is far reaching and trans generational.
The Dave Goldberg’s and Mo Merriman’s of the world may not be with us
any longer, but their legacy lives on.
This Father’s Day I pay tribute to all those fathers that make their children feel loved and special...
Thank you!
Be well, Do well, Live well,
Until next time,
Sunita Merriman, DDS